I decided to do something different this week...
I have the craziest relationship stories. Maybe it's because I am naive; maybe it's because I am a hopeless romantic, or maybe it's because all the good men are gone...whatever the case may be I've decided that I will no longer be selfish and keep these stories to myself but that I would share them with the world so that at least one girl out there wont make the same mistakes I did...
There is this guy, we will refer to him as "he-who-shall-not be named" and we had a on and off relationship. I met him about a year ago and we were involved, (under the wrong circumstances-but I REFUSE to get into that) but involved none-the-less. He was pretty serious when we met (or so I thought) but I was "big pimpin''" at the time and didn't want to settle. I felt as though he was coming on too strong and I blew him off but I was completely honest about it.
Any who, his job had him travel so we talked every now and then while he was away. I remember being excited about his homecoming. He had this "new perspective" on living life and I was happy for him. We began to talk everyday and of course feelings grew...
He came to see me and little did I know that this "new perspective" meant going out with the boys all the time, (which I don't mind) and messing with other chicks, (which I do mind). Even though we weren't exclusive we were messing around which is exclusive as it gets for me and I remember looking in his phone and seeing all kinds of crazy stuff and the thing that tripped me out was that he was so open about it. Like, "I'm not phasing those broads" blah blah blah... needless to say I got mad and was like "screw you, you're a liar" but of course my naive ass came back because he happened to drop the "L" word at the right time.
He went back to work (which is in another state mind you) but I wanted to prove my worth so I put in work. We kept in touch, talking everyday, making plans, the whole nine. I was leaving my desk to cake with this dude in the locker room at my job... I was "in love". Of course, me being an Aries, when I fall I fall HARD. No if's and's or butt's about it ... I wanted a commitment obviously and I wanted it from him. What was it about him? I honestly think that it was the challenge...he didn't fall into my hands as easily as other guys did and I liked that about him. He made plans to come see me so we could talk about us and I remember saying in my head "Ok, if he funks this up I am not messing with him any more".
(This right here ladies and gentlemen was a test. It was CRUCIAL that he didn't mess this up but of course, guys never know when they are being tested so they always manage to fail.)
Nonetheless he failed.
The DAY he was supposed to come see me he told me he was down here and that he would hit me up when it was time for us to go out....
That call never came.
I was mad as fk. I deleted all the photos I had of him, except one, a very incriminating one because part of me wanted to be petty. I deleted his number, and later added it back under "Flaw Ass" so that I wouldn't accidentally answer it.
He didn't call me that entire weekend. Every time I called him that night it rang so I didn't hit him up after that day and I tried ONE more time on that Sunday night but it went straight to voicemail.
I was raging mad... I knew he was flaw but gaahh damn really? I just wanted to know WHY. But I put my pride to the side and went about my life... and started partying really hard and talking to other guys to get my mind off of him...
A week went by and I get a text from him saying that he funked up. Damn right you did! But I didn't write back because that's just how this game goes.
A few hours later he calls and of course I just let it ring. It's damn near 3:30 in the morning! (I'm not sleep but he doesn't know that....) then I get a text. I think it's from my homegirl so I look at it and it's from him saying "I'm about to kill myself"
Are you freaking serious?
I contemplate ignoring it but I don't know if he is serious so I call my homegirl @MissezTurner to ask her if I should call him or does she think he is playing... she's drunk mind you but she has enough sense to say "uh yeah"... so I call him and he answers.
I'm boiling mad at this point, "WHY YOU CALLING ME AT 4 IN THE MORNING WITH THIS MESS? ARE YOU ABOUT TO KILL YOURSELF? WHAT IS WRONG WITH YOU?" (because I am just the best with dealing with people on the brink of suicide)
And he's like "I wasn't going to do that, I just wanted to talk to you and you weren't responding to my calls..."
Are you fucking serious???
Who does that? I happen to think that suicide is a very serious matter and for someone to play about it to get my attention is just childish... Maybe a "Sorry I am such a flaw ass mfker and I want to make it up to you" would have worked better, yeah I still would have ignored it but still...don't ya think ya took it a BIT too far. Maybe in his twisted mind that was ok...but I beg to differ...
How far would YOU go to get someone's attention?
Saturday, September 10, 2011
My Fee @MissezTurner (you can check out here blog here) and I were having a conversation about dating new guys VERSUS being comfortable in relationships. We were interrupted by a text message I received from a guy I am getting to know that said, “What do you like to do for fun?” I expressed my disgust for answering such cliché questions and how I didn’t even want to continue the conversation because it's always the same thing over and over with every guy you meet. We decided to come up with a set of some not-so-cliché icebreakers that are sure to spice up any first date or that awkward "getting-to-know-you" stage. We’ve decided to answer the questions too, just for kicks!
This will be the first of many co-blogs from @MissezTurner and I which we shall call:
"The Fee Chronicles"
Don’t judge us by our answers…but you probably will anyway…
1. What was the drunkest you've ever been and what did you do?
@LaunaKMonet One word: Tailgate but I’ll let @MissezTurner tell that story and I’ll talk about the time after that… When I was about 18 or 19 I got kicked out my house on Christmas and ended up bumming it on a couch at my friends dorm in Miami. We decided to hit up this club called Rendezvous on the Lake and party the holiday away and this particular club had three flights of stairs. I don't remember much of the night because it was mad blurry but I do recall not eating much that day and somehow, we ended up on the third floor of the club looking down at all of the people on the main floor. I blacked out twice up there and we decided that it was time to go home. I missed the first step and ended up falling down three entire flights of stairs. My home girl was tried to help me and ended up falling with me too. I was so gone that I wasn’t even embarrassed that the entire club witnessed me busting my ass, I just got up, dusted myself of and stumbled out the door.
@MissezTurner At one of the most hood parties I have ever been to in my life. We were 18, working as telemarketers, and got invited to an album release party for Lefty Gunz. Since we were young, and wanted to ensure that we had drinks, @LaunaKMonet filled up two water bottles of Bacardi and Cuervo, and we downed both of these before we even set foot into the club (We mixed these with NOS energy drinks which is why @MissezTurner got so messed up). We went straight to the bar and topped that off with screwdrivers (Because that’s the only drink we could think of off the top of our heads, being underage). After drinking those, we got blessed with some greenery from Lefty Gunz himself, and then we topped that off with Long Island Iced Teas (another one of the only drinks underaged kids know off the top of their heads).
This is where it starts to get fuzzy …
I remember sticking & rolling ( S/O to Dade County), lying on the couch in my short-enough-to-be-a-t-shirt-dress , my Boss stumbling over and telling me to get it together, @LaunaKMonet yelling saying “Fee, I’m going to need you to chill the F*ck out,” (I only did that because I was trying to sober up too!!) and the spot lights during Lefty’s performance (We were later informed that there weren’t any spot lights in the venue).
I was so messed up that I let @LaunaKMonet drive my car home. I don’t let her anywhere near my keys sober.
Anyway, I ended up throwing up in a Winn-Dixie Bag and waking up drunk the following morning to go to school. Too bad I ended up driving home instead.
-What were you drinking that night?
@LaunaKMonet Vodka and something… don’t remember.
2. What was the worst job you had and why?
@MissezTurner Burger King. Enough Said.
@LaunaKMonet McDonalds… they had me doing WAY TOO MUCH for $7.25 an hour.
-Have you ever been fired?
@MissezTurner Let’s just say my boss didn’t like me…
@LaunaKMonet yeah I got fired through e-mail once because they didn’t want to give me Christmas off…then he lied about it when I tried to claim unemployment.
3. Who was the last person you deleted from your phonebook and why?
@MissezTurner Lol, he was saved as “Remi, Straight no Chaser,” After speeding off from his house in the middle of a date (that I arranged) I realized that I had absolutely NO reason for him to be in my phone.
@LaunaKMonet He’s saved as “Flaw Ass” now simply because he is FLAW and because I don’t want to accidentally pick up his calls, I don’t delete numbers anymore, I just save them under something that reminds me why I shouldn’t talk to him.
4. What was the last text you sent last night?
@MissezTurner “Ok. I’m Leaving now”
@LaunaKMonet “My pleasure!! We had fun!!”
5. What did you think about the Carter 4? (Seperate the lames from the real)
@MissezTurner Honestly, he should’ve just let Drake ghost write the album.
@LaunaKMonet To be completely honest, I didn't listen to the entire album yet, I was going to buy it and @MissezTurner told me no. After Sorry for the Wait I wasn't too eager to cop it, but he did sell damn near a milli the first week… so I’ll check it out…
6. What was your first car?
@LaunaKMonet I drove a 1995 Nissan Quest minivan, it was beige and the sliding door did not work but I was whippin’ it!
@MissezTurner 1995 White Chevy Cavalier that I paid for with my Burger King Money. Good times.
7. What was the best concert you've ever been too?
@LaunaKMonet , @MissezTurner and I went to a Waka Flocka Flame concert in this hood ass club for like $30. It was the best concert of my life, I was so crunk and he had so much energy!
@MissezTurner I have paid like 200$ a Drake concert, and this weekend, I will be going to see J. Cole (Two of my favorite rappers) but I will risk all of my Hip Hop credibility to say Waka Flocka Flame was the LIVEST concert I have ever been to.
8. Do you have any kids? (You've go to ask now a days...)
@LaunaKMonet No, I don't plan on having children out of wedlock.
@MissezTurner No. Knock on wood. Twice.
9. Ass or tities?
@LaunaKMonet *Big Sean Voice* Ass-ass-ass-ass-ass... lol
@MissezTurner *Bubba Sparks voice* BOOTYBOOOTYBOOTYBOOTY ROCKING EVERYWHERE!!!
10. Have you ever been arrested?
@LaunaKMonet & @MissezTurner Luckily, no.
-What was your last run in with the police?
@LaunaKMonet Tuesday… I was going 68 in a 35…but in my defense I was coming down a bridge, EVERYONE’S car automatically accelerates when they are coming off of a bridge…
@MissezTurner Saturday. Apparently, hanging onto the side of a vehicle in motion is illegal.
11. What exactly are you looking for right now?
@LaunaKMonet Well, to be honest...shoot, I'm just trying to kick it right now!! Lol, seriously though, relationship-wise I want someone who is loyal, honest, ambitious, funny, respectful and faithful.
@MissezTurner Someone comfortable enough make me their housewife. I swear, I don’t mind.
12. What website do you visit the most?
@LaunaKMonet (looks at most visited sites) Twitter, Blogger, LinkedIn, Model Mayhem, my email, Dormtainment.com, Blackgirlsareeasy.com and Facebook.
@MissezTurner I don’t have cable, so Youtube is like the finest of Comcast packages right now. After that, it’s Nahright.com, Facebook, Twitter, RapRadar.com and Blackgirlsareeasy.com
13. Do you have a Twitter/Facebook? (You can learn so much about a person from their photos)
@MissezTurner Who doesn’t?
14. Are you a rapper, model, actor, entrepreneur, dope dealer, pimp, stripper, etc.
@LaunaKMonet I model, act and write J
@MissezTurner Unfortunately , no. But, If I’m under the influence, then possibly all of the above.
Follow up : What is your back up plan in case that doesn't work out?
@LaunaKMonet I will either pursue a career in hospitality, broadcast journalism (after I get my Masters) or in PR/Marketing (which is what I received my bachelors degree in). Always gotta have a Plan B!
15. What is your government name?
@LaunaKMonet ... De’Launa…You can call me Launa.
@MissezTurner It’s Jonel…Missez Turner if ya nasty. (I know…I couldn’t resist)
16. What is your Zodiac sign?
@LaunaKMonet "Flirtatious like an Aries...."
@MissezTurner “Im a Capricorn. I came here to get managed…”
17. Can you do the Stanky legg?
@LaunaKMonet When I'm drunk lol, @MissezTurner can kill the stanky legg though.
@MissezTurner I can do the stanky-est of legs.
18. Do you have any tats/piercings?
@LaunaKMonet 4 tattoos, 7 piercings
Follow up: What are they and where?
@LaunaKMonet Chinese symbol for strength/power on my foot, stars behind my ear, my zodiac sign on my rib and a black widow with a heart abdomen on my ring finger...as far as piercings, use your imagination. :)
@MissezTurner I have flowers up my left side with the Chinese symbol for beauty underneath. For one, it keeps me in check when my self esteem isn’t the highest. Secondly, it reminds me that I cant get fat.
19. Android or iPhone?
@LaunaKMonet Droid Droid Droid!
Follow up: Mac or PC?
@MissezTurner PC till I die!
20. What do you think about Beyonce's pregnancy?
@LaunaKMonet Beyonce is PERFECT. * In my Kanye Voice * “Matthew taught you well!!”
@MissezTurner The Illuminati is watching. I’ll keep my mouth shut on this one.
Try these questions out on your first date with some one new or while you're playing the "21 questions" texting game! You'll know if you really want to continue seeing them after you do!!
Wednesday, September 7, 2011
L: Dressing like a “lady” is becoming rarity judging by the way some young ladies dress today, how do you feel this impacts the attitudes of these young women and how they are perceived by society?
D: The way we dress impacts how we feel and how people treat us. Since starting PGRDresses, many of my pretty girls have discovered their feminine power. Women and men alike treat a well dressed woman differently. You feel better about yourself when you put on a nice dress; it's empowering. On the onset of this challenge so many women were receptive; I also got a little backlash. Some women wanted to know why they should wear dresses. I suggest that the dress is merely a symbol; the rules for the challenge were loose for women who just couldn't get with the idea of "ROCKING" DRESSES.
L: Unless you are in the office environment you don’t really see a lot of women dressing like ladies in respectable dresses and feminine suits, what do you feel has contributed to this habit over time?
D: I think laziness is one reason. We live in a society where going the extra mile is not expected. How many of us have been guilty of throwing on a bummy t-shirt and those extra comfortable jeans? I mean you’re just running to the store right?. The office dress code is business casual, so why should I wear dresses or suits? I think society moved away from going the extra mile. How many times have you looked at a well dressed person and think, "Why are they so dressed up?!”
L: You have those days where it is so easy to throw on a pair of sweats and go!! I love the fact that you have created this challenge for women to put some effort into their appearances and throw on a cute dress and heels. What makes you put in the extra effort on those days that you may want to skip the dress and just throw on your sweats?
D: LOL, I feel compelled to dress the part now. Yesterday, I wore a pair of dress slacks to work and so many people had something to say. I realized that this was the first time I’ve worn slacks in months. I was that girl who just threw on jeans and tennis shoes. It's amazing that I am the head of an organization of girlie girls. I have come to the realization that I am a BRAND. We all are brands. Our image is what we show the world. I want my image to be one of classiness, refinement, and feminine empowerment. Dresses are so empowering and pretty. I have an affinity for pretty things.
L: Your blog covers a variety of topics such as fashion, healthy lifestyles and relationships, where do you get the inspiration for these topics?
D: Thank you. I work hard to cover topics that will be of interest to my followers. I am blessed to have a great group of people who submit posts to ensure all voices are heard. I try to share ideas, thoughts, and businesses. I love the opportunities that God has given me to help others. There’s nothing like reaching a stranger. So many people have reached out to me regarding my blog and the dress challenge. One woman emailed she was rocking a dress for the first time in over 30 years. That's POWERFUL. I have young girls participating in my movement. I have great-grandmothers participating in my movement. My movement is colorless, classless, and open for all women and girls. I just want to give a voice to the voiceless. It's an honor.
L: Could you tell us more about your Pretty Dapper Fella of the week and PGRDress Star of the week sections and what a person could do to be featured?
D: Pretty Dapper Fella is a way to get the fellas involved in the pretty movement. We have some brothers making moves in the community and doing good works. Pretty Dapper Fella is an opportunity to highlight these men. PGRDress Star is our star of the week; a woman who is doing good things in the community or in business. I love to celebrate good people doing good things. PGRDress Stars used to be a daily event but that was just too much work. So once a week we feature a Pretty Dapper Fella and a PGRDress Star. We accept nominations at firstname.lastname@example.org